Zen of You and Me: A Guide to Getting Along with Just About Anyone

"A minicourse in how to deal with interpersonal conflict--from a Zen perspective. With her book, her hugely popular online courses, and her workshops at venues throughout the US and the world, Diane Musho Hamilton is one of the most highly visible of experts on conflict management--with good reason: her methods, which combine Zen wisdom with principles from Ken Wilber's Integral Theory and her own extensive experience in conflict resolution, really work. In this new book, she turns her attention to one of the main places conflict manifests: in intimate relationships. She provides a very practical guide to navigating conflict in love and to coming to satisfying outcomes where both partners feel heard and have their needs honored. The book can be thought of as a kind of relationship "first aid kit," but also as something all couples should read in order to foster a harmonious and respectful loving relationship"--
Explains how to deal with interpersonal conflict from a Zen perspective, detailing how to navigate intimate relationships so that partners can come to satisfying outcomes where both feel heard and have their needs honored.
How to deal with interpersonal conflict--from a Zen perspective.The people who get under your skin the most can in fact be your greatest teachers. It’s not a matter of overlooking differences, as is often taught, but of regarding those difficult aspects of the relationship with curiosity and compassion--for those very differences offer a path to profound connection. Diane Hamilton’s practical, reality-based guide to living harmoniously with even your most irritating fellow humans—spouses, partners, colleagues, parents, children--shows that “getting along” is really a matter of discovering that our differences are nothing other than an expression of our even deeper shared unity.